These questions came from this link. 36 Questions to Bring You Closer Together
- Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
Probably someone who is willing to effectively reteach me to be fluent in the Cambodian language.
- Would you like to be famous? In what way?
It would be for making a huge positive impact through a successful nonprofit organization by being a vegan foodie, mountaineering and vintage/retro fanatic. That I helped to create and develop.
- Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you’re going to say? Why?
Yes. I am not the best at speaking off the top of my head.
- What would constitute a perfect day for you?
Depends on my mood, I suppose. The following consists (in no particular order) of a perfect day. Carry 72 ounces of fresh dragon fruit pinyin tea. Being able to ride my bike all day, with no time constraints. Maybe traveling to somewhere I’ve never ridden before or accomplishing a goal, whether it be a faster time or a hill I struggled on. I’m happiest when I’m riding. I would be in Seattle among people that I care about. I’d feast on fruits, huge salads, veggie pho, ramen, sushi, popcorn, and sweets. Going for a walk at Lincoln Park and the Rainforest. Viewing on top of the mountains and overlooking the water. Having smoothies among good company with good conversation. Shopping spree. Watching bad horror flicks w friends wasted on junk food and granola bars. Spending quality time with my mom and brothers. Tea. Exploring downtown Seattle. Walking through the rain. Having positive human connections. Catching live shows/bands. Laughing. Dancing terribly all night without some random person rubbing their junk on you. Hugs and high fives. Having all the energy to do and enjoy all of the above. I’m sure there are plenty more, but these are the ones that particularly came to mind.
- When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
- If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?
Mind. Your beautiful heart and soul matters more than how you look like.
- Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
Bike on a waterslide or climbing Mount Everest.
- Name three things you and your close friends appear to have in common.
1) Being overly spontaneous
2) Arts & Crafts
3) Acting like ten year olds when we have slumber parties together
- For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
Are you happy enough? Nothing makes me happier but guiltier when I see a picture of a kid in Africa or a third-world country holding essentials that us Americans have such as clean water, food, shoes, etc. The smile on their faces instantly light up and is a thousand times more beautiful than the over-played smiles we give off for materialistic items we aren’t truly satisfied with. I always ask myself: why is it that these people who have nothing are so happy with anything whereas we have everything we could ask for and am still never content and satisfied?
- If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
I would not change anything. Even though my dad past away when I was only two years old my single mom taught me that you have to work very hard to live the life you want and be productive with your time being spent. Being able to give more than you have made me happier when you spend money on people than yourself.
- Take four minutes and tell your friend your life story in as much detail as possible.
I was born right on the Declaration of Independence in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania on October 15th. My sun sign is Libra, moon in Capricorn, Pisces rising. Lived there for a bit and then my parents moved out to Seattle because my mother lived there all her life and missed it tremendously! My dad passed away when I was three years old. Sometimes I think about how I would differ as a person if my dad was still alive and if we had never moved to Seattle. I started attending a very musical/spiritual school and went to Buddhist temples every Sundays in a town called Lynnwood, Washington. Around this time we moved a couple towns over out to Renton, Washington where my parents still live today. I had to wear a hideous uniform and used to be so jealous of public schoolers who could wear their own clothes to school. Every day after school I would change clothes immediately and then spend all my time outside pretending to be a fairy and playing with the farm animals. My stepdad worked over 80 hours a week and apparently used to yell a lot but I think I blocked it out of my memory. In elementary school I had very mean classmates and wanted to kill them because of how they treated me. Me and my friend Elizabeth would stick together though and then in fifth grade the main girl moved away and we were so excited that we wouldn’t have to deal with her anymore but then Elizabeth took on her role and began to be very distant and got pregnant, I was really upset about it. My 6th grade year my cousin and I did a lot of homeschooling after coming back home from school. I learned absolutely nothing regarding my schoolwork but that was the year I first went vegan and began practicing meditation/yoga. I would go to yoga classes in the morning and then spend most of the day frustrated at math and then give up and watch TLC with my cousin. I began getting more into music bands and boys as well when I was in the seventh grade. At the end of that year my mother was concerned about me being a vegan and made me eat more meat. She also decided to bring me to temple every Sundays. And I also got my math teacher fired for being hella creepy towards me. 8th grade was a mess- for some reason all the teachers/parents thought I was actually Satan and only one of my teachers knew that wasn’t true and she is the reason I made it out alive in middle school. 9th grade I started going to a really intense Caucasian school with and the Cross Country team so naturally I joined just for the hell of it. It was a really good year for me; I became very studious and was only preoccupied with work and school. I journal a lot and did too much homework. I was insanely busy running all over town trying to be with my friends, working, doing homework, Cross Country and Track team and volunteering at a church. I hated high school and chemistry but was so in love with my life outside of school. I wanted to work for Nylon magazine and travel around doing articles about music and fashion and be a merch girl for a band on the side. I turned 18 and headed off to University of Washington to start college as Journalism major. I really loved my first semester of college. I did well in my classes and lived with my friend in an apartment with another roommate and made a lot of friends. My second semester however was a nightmare. I moved in with an international rich Asian roommate she was beautiful but had really strange social skills and I never knew how to reply to what she said to me. We shared a room and she tried to make me dress nicer and I did not agree with her changing the way I dress and I thought she was going to murder me in my sleep. I used to go to the mountains to be alone and that’s the semester I first read “On the Road” by Kerouac and it only deepened my desire to get away. I did a lot of healing and yoga and that’s when I did my nutrition certification and then did my nutrition training that next fall. The time I turned 21 was bittersweet. I was dating a really beautiful boy who was everything I’d ever wanted- we were best friends and I wanted to spend all my free time with him. I got my license that year and lived with one of my best friends and I kissed him again and smoked my first Mary Jane on the roof with him. Our relationship started to go south and ended in a nasty breakup.
During my last year at college I realized that I should have been studying nutrition all along and developed a deep desire to return to school. I got super involved with my temple and had a really good thing going for me there in regards to my spiritual life and my yoga practice- but I knew I had to leave my comfort zone and be uncomfortable for a while. I managed to survive and got off campus in the spring semester. That semester really showed me a lot about myself and reminded me of how hard it is to be selfless and put someone else above yourself. I had a really transformational time in school and no part of me wanted to leave college but I had snagged a job teaching people how to live a healthy lifestyle. Ever since I’ve been back it’s been a strange transitioning time into a new chapter of life for me but it’s been alright and I’m looking forward to what the next few months hold for me : )
- If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?
See my past life and be good at math.
- If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
I would want to know more about my parent’s love story and marriage. It’s the one thing I think about often and don’t understand. I don’t want to know about my future I like life being mysterious! Makes it interesting:)
- Is there something that you’ve dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
I have always wanted to go to all the Asian countries like Tokyo for example and discover all the crazy-magnificent subcultures. Potentially, a social event where everyone dresses up like dinosaurs or everyone has glowing top hats. I can’t stop dreaming of burning man; I’ve even started saving money so I can attend next year. I haven’t done it because I am terrible at planning and being intentional about things I want and I’m working on getting better about that!
- What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
When I was only 8 years old my cousin and I passed Mario Bros on Nintendo DS in only five hours. We were pretty stoked. My values has changed significantly since then, I like to think my greatest accomplishments are still on the horizon. But I am always grateful for the little daily accomplishments in my life such as:
- Explore your spirituality- we are spiritual beings! Let your soul shine.
2. Find a way to serve others daily- it could just be giving someone a compliment or it could be buying someone’s coffee- be a blessing.
3. Nourish yourself, mind-body-spirit daily as well. I’m talking staying hydrated, eating tasty plants, moving your body and sleeping well every night! This also includes letting go of things that don’t serve you- and also speaking kind words to yourself 🙂 you’re a babe, it’s okay to admit it!
4. Clean your room/house, even just a little bit. It’s insane how much of a difference it makes.
5. Journal journal journal- write. I love journaling, can be effective in uncovering true emotions and I believe that the more truthful and honest to yourself. The more you know about thyself the closer you are to yourself.
- What do you value most in a friendship?
I value open minded friends who inspire me and will do weird stuff with me on a whim : )
- What is your most treasured memory?
Me splashing in puddles at age 3 in Della Falls.
- What is your most terrible memory?
Being chased by a bear, but at the same time it’s probably the coolest ha.
- If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
- What does friendship mean to you?
Friends with kind eyes who appreciates my sense of adventure and views similar things in life that I do. A good friend is when you treat others equal. He or she does not look down on you or look above you. Or think they’re better than you/vice versa. Yes, they maybe retarded sometimes but a friend sees you as equal. He or she does not compete with you in a jealous way. Both parties exchange invitations to hangout with one another and share his/her own friends freely. Not having to stay busy while around them to get something out of hanging out. Doing things for them you might not want to do.
- What roles do loveand affection play in your life?
To experience everything this life has to offer, including pain and sadness- because without the lows we couldn’t feel the highs : )
To love and be loved, to smile and hug and give to those who can’t give back.
To experience joy and peace on top of a mountain or in the soft ocean waves or in the face of someone grateful for your existence.
To think about Buddha/God/the Greater Universe/Spiritual Unknown and how we got here and how we are all beautiful little souls connected by love love love !
- Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
- How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhoodwas happier than most other people’s?
- How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
- Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “we are both in this room feeling…”
- Complete this sentence “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”
- If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
- Tell your partner what you like about them: be honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
- Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
- When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
I watched a movie and a dog died in the end 😦
- Tell your friend something that you like about them already.
Very spontaneous at heart, youthful, takes a lot of pride, funny, acts like my age, carefree, adventurous, and brings the old school back.
- What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
Abortion. It really brings out the child in me.
- If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
One of my friend’s grandma who is about to be 99 years old told me: “I wish I moved out more, got to experience more things, and meet more people. Lived out of the norm and have only one kid or none at all. At the heart of it all, majority of the people on this earth want to love and be loved, I want to help others grow mentally and physically with those that surround me.”
Telling how much my family and close friends mean to me and to tell them to Slooooow down your life. Pause and notice- try to imagine you are a child again and look at ordinary things with wonder! Spend time in forests, mountains, beaches, lakes, anywhere that is quiet and beautiful- meditate, meditate, meditate. Sit in coffee shops or parks and watch people walk by; find beauty in each person you see! Tell them they are beautiful! Buy someone a meal, pay it forward, and volunteer. There are so many people out there Slowly begin going through your belongings, if you never wear it, if it doesn’t fit, if you can survive without it let it go: ) sell it or donate it. Reconnect with old friends, acquaintances, etc. Talk to many strangers and make conversations with as many people as you can, and be the first to ask them out on a friendly date. You never know they can be your next best friend! Like my motto: “Learn as much as you can and meet as many awesome people as you can on the way.” Journal your thoughts if that helps you keep track of things, write down what you are grateful for each day! Send prayers or good thoughts to others and the more you give back the more you receive in peace and joy!
- Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
- Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
My younger brothers, they are too young it would bother me the most because they haven’t experienced what life really is yet.
- Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
… and a few variations:
- If you could choose the sexand physical appearance of your soon-to-be-born child, would you do it?
- Would you be willing to have horrible nightmaresfor a year if you would be rewarded with extraordinary wealth?
- While on a trip to another city, your spouse/lover meets and spends a night with an exciting stranger. Given that they will never meet again, and could never otherwise learn of the incident, would you want your partner to tell you about it?